Establishing a sleep routine for your baby can be one of the biggest challenges for new parents, especially in the early months. One of the most common questions during this time is: “When should I start sleep training?” While every baby develops at their own pace, starting sleep training at the right time can help your child learn independent sleep habits and give exhausted parents a much-needed break.
What’s the Best Time to Start Sleep Training?
There’s no universal answer to this question—it depends on both your baby’s development and your family’s readiness. However, most experts agree that between 4 and 6 months is typically a good window to begin sleep training.
At this age, babies start to distinguish between day and night and begin developing more predictable sleep cycles. They are also developmentally ready to sleep for longer stretches at night. That said, every baby is different. If your child was born prematurely or has health issues, you may need to wait a bit longer and consult your pediatrician. Newborns sleep around 16–18 hours a day, while babies older than 6 months typically need about 12–14 hours of sleep, including naps. If your baby is over 6 months old, still waking frequently at night, and you find yourself thinking, “It’s time to create a routine,” then it might be the right moment to start. But remember—readiness matters more than age. If you’re emotionally overwhelmed or unsure, it’s perfectly okay to wait. Sleep training is not a race; it’s a step forward taken with respect for your baby’s needs and your own emotional capacity.
Common Mistakes Parents Make During Sleep Training
Parenting is a journey of trial and error, and sleep training is no exception. Here are some common missteps that can make the process harder:
• Inconsistency: Switching from the Ferber Method one night to rocking the next can confuse your baby. Consistency builds security.
• Poor timing: Don’t attempt sleep training when your baby is sick, overtired, or going through a developmental leap—it can increase stress for both of you.
• Giving up too soon: The first night might be tough. If you quit at the first sign of difficulty, your baby won’t have a chance to adjust.
• No bedtime routine: A calming ritual like a warm bath, bedtime story, or dim lighting helps signal that it’s time to sleep.
• Cutting night feeds too early: If your baby isn’t ready, this can lead to more wake-ups. Always check with your pediatrician.
• Extreme approaches: Letting your baby cry endlessly or avoiding all crying can both disrupt their sense of security. Balance and empathy are key.
How Do I Know If My Baby Is Ready for Sleep Training?
Here are a few signs that your baby might be ready to begin sleep training:
• Your baby is between 4–6 months old and has begun to develop a more predictable sleep pattern.
• Nighttime feedings are decreasing (check with your pediatrician to be sure it’s safe to reduce).
• Your baby can self-soothe, even slightly—maybe with a pacifier, blanket, or thumb.
• You and your partner feel emotionally prepared to commit to the process.
If your baby is going through a big transition (teething, illness, a move, or a caregiver change), it’s wise to wait until things settle.
How to Handle Night Wakings During Sleep Training
Night wakings are normal—especially in the early stages of sleep training. Here’s how to manage them effectively:
• Stay calm: If your baby cries, avoid panicking. Take a deep breath and stick to your plan.
• Keep interventions brief: Whether using Ferber or Pick-Up/Put-Down, keep check-ins short and soothing. Offer reassurance without lingering too long.
• Reinforce the bedtime routine: Daytime naps that are too long or inconsistent can lead to restless nights. Adjust naps to support nighttime sleep.
• Reduce night feeds gradually: If your baby is still feeding at night, taper slowly with your doctor’s guidance.
• Create an optimal sleep environment: A dark room, white noise machine, and comfortable temperature can help extend sleep.
Final Thoughts Sleep training takes time, patience, and consistency. If you start when your baby is developmentally and emotionally ready—usually around 4 to 6 months—you’ll be more likely to see success. Focus on building a solid bedtime routine, managing night wakings calmly, and sticking to your chosen method. Remember: every baby is unique. Go at your own pace, listen to your instincts, and know that with love and support, restful nights are possible.